Laurie Shiell is the Executive Director of the Centre Against Abuse, an accredited organization leading the charge in providing services to survivors of domestic abuse and sexual assault, in Bermuda.
Laurie received her Bachelor of Arts Degree in Psychology from Spelman College, and her Masters in Educational Psychology from Howard University. She prides herself on taking a holistic approach to manage her clients’ needs.
While Laurie has always been passionate about equality and justice for all, never in her wildest dreams would she have imagined that she would be a leading advocate through the Centre Against Abuse to eliminate domestic abuse and sexual assault in Bermuda. Joining her in today’s interview is Lauren Trott, the Clinical Supervisor and Counsellor of the organization.
Abuse can come in so many different forms and while some are harsh and obvious, some can often be simply overlooked as just bad behavior. Mental, physical, emotional, social, spiritual, and verbal abuse can all be very hurtful, detrimental and even dangerous. Gaining and maintaining power and control over you is the primary motive of the abuser. Equality in a relationship means that you have a say and you are respected; you feel safe and your life is not controlled by another person.
There are a variety of short- and long-term effects that can plague a woman as a result of abuse as a child and or an adult. These range from PTSD, anxiety, and depression to high blood pressure, migraines, and turning to alcohol or drugs to cope with the pain.
It is important that when you are in a relationship you listen to that small voice inside that may tell you something is wrong, despite all the feel-good potential that you may be hoping for. Watch for red flags and respond to your own gut instincts, because they are rarely wrong.
If you have been the unfortunate victim of abuse, but survived and are now out of the situation, be sure to take time to focus on yourself. When you put yourself first and take time to heal, your health and mental wellbeing will improve. You will experience a freedom that allows you to grow and accept happiness back into your life. Don’t allow your abuser to suck you into believing that he has changed, loves, and wants you back. It is all about regaining his control and is a temporary behavior that will revert back to his normal habits.
Abuse is widespread and there are resources to help you and those you care about to manage the situation, and then get the support you need throughout the recovery process. Just like we need servicing for our cars, we need servicing for our hearts. Take care of yourself, keep your head up, and walk positively in your purpose.
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